Adoption is never easy.
This is very much the case in our story. In January of 2016 we brought home a beautiful baby girl after spending 3 days in the hospital with her. Later that night, we got the phone call that the mother had changed her mind. We took that baby and dropped her off at a hotel … devastated and angry, with so many questions and no answers.
We quickly realized what had happened was a “God thing.”
It was God telling us to stop being selfish. To let Him take control. This seemed so hard, but we started going to church, became members of a church, and completely changed our lifestyle.
We grieved. After a few months of grieving, we joined with Faithful Consultants out of Atlanta, and within a few days we were matched.
We started doing all we could do to fundraise. This adoption was going to be about twice the cost of our failed adoption. After passing our story along to Lifesong, we were granted a matching grant. So we reached out to friends, family, and quickly hit the goal. We were still short a lot of money, but that matching grant helped out tremendously. Our baby girl was due in about 2 months, so we continued to save and fundraise.
How we survived adoption loss
7 weeks before the Halloween due date, we got the call. “You need to pack up and come! The baby is being born tomorrow.” We were in shock. We were excited, scared, and didn’t really have time to think. We our flights booked, we drove almost 13 hours to our destination.
Our little girl was born on 9/13/16 and spent 2 weeks in the NICU. She is now over 6 months old and is perfectly healthy.
After our failed match we knew that God was talking to us. It was our wake-up call. We prayed and prayed and prayed. We questioned whether we were making the right decision. And we kept going back to Psalm 46:10.
Be still, and know that I am God.
Thank you, Jordan, for sharing your story. Adoption–and especially adoption loss–is never easy, and yet we praise God for your courage and conviction to press forward. How we rejoice with you over the addition of your precious daughter and pray God’s richest blessings on her life. Thank you for your transparency about the pain of the process.
Be God’s answer to a family’s prayer.
The adoption of our precious daughter is part of a legacy where God connected the dots…
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