Lifesong Blog

Top Keywords

Latest News

Featured Links

Sponsor a Child The Forgotten Initiative Ethiopia High School

Latest News Tag: Adoption

June 23, 2017

When Staying Alive Depends on Being Adopted | Family Friday

image2

We adopted Philip and Arthur from China nearly one year ago. Both of our sons have cerebral palsy. Philip, 4 yrs., was unable to self-feed, walk, or speak when we brought him home. He is now doing all three! Only God. Arthur was in serious condition, although we didn’t realize the extent until after many appointments and testing. On gotcha day he could not even hold his head up. He needed to be held and cradled like a newborn even though he was almost 3. The muscle tightness described in his medical file turned out to be spastic quadriplegia cerebral palsy. He was also silently aspiring everything we fed him. Surgery was done to insert a feeding tube and slowly he is growing stronger. Arthur is now able to stand with support and attempting a few steps. Many doctors have said that because of the shape he was in he … Continue reading

Read More »
June 16, 2017

Adoption and the God Who Moves Mountains | Family Friday

IMG_0094LR (1)

God taught us through adoption that His heart is for the fatherless; He will move mountains to place the lonely in families. My wife Julie saw Ellis’s picture while I was in Rwanda with Compassion, and she instantly felt like he was our son. She tried to push the feelings away; after all, this boy was already 3 years old and had a special need that would require daily care. Try as she might, she couldn’t get this precious face out of her head. She pictured him with our family everywhere — on walks, at the park, etc. Meanwhile, over in Africa (before Julie told me about Ellis) I was talking to my team about adopting again. But, surely this wasn’t the right time. We had just moved, taken a substantial pay cut, were figuring out some new medical issues with Katee, and I was still learning my new job. Yet, we could not ignore the ways God was revealing His plan for our … Continue reading

Read More »
June 9, 2017

When the Surprise Is a Son by Saturday | Family Friday

family 2016 (2) 1

While still living in Guatemala as missionaries, we felt a clear call to return to the U.S. to pursue adoption. After arriving home, we began our home study in June of 2015. I remember asking our worker about the timeline. She commented that no later than October, she would have our study completed. I remember thinking, “Wow! As early as October, we need to be ready.” However, with our first adoption taking about 2 years, I didn’t really think anything would happen that quickly. You can imagine my surprise, getting a call from our worker on a Tuesday, just weeks after the home study was done, asking if we would consider an emergency placement of a 3 year old boy, who needed a home by Saturday! We needed to decide if we wanted our profile to be presented to the birth mom THAT night! Then, if she selected us, we … Continue reading

Read More »
June 7, 2017

How to Be a Remarkable Father Through Adoption

Father's Day

My first Father’s Day was a doozie. My wife and I were in the early days of being home with our newly adopted son, and my wife was on full bed rest with 1 week to go before delivering our second son. I was in my final weeks of a rigorous seminary program, and I was balancing all of the above with a full-time job. And yet that first Father’s Day stands out in my mind as one of the best days of my life. Though I was terrified of doing it all wrong, I was thankful to finally be a dad. This Father’s Day will be my 5th, and though I still have plenty to learn about parenting, I’ve gained a few lessons from fellow dads who have also adopted and are ahead of me on the journey. Here are 3– 1. Don’t consider adoption “a mom thing.” Make it your interest, too. When my … Continue reading

Read More »
June 2, 2017

The Life We Never Imagined | Family Friday

kids

With each of our three adoptions, we have come to a deeper understanding of the Father’s sovereignty … and the beautiful joy that comes out of the adoption tragedy. One quote, in particular, kept us going in spite of the storms. “If you want to walk on water, you have to get out of the boat.”  This rang especially true during the adoption of our daughter, Edie from Hungary. We struggled financially, spiritually, and emotionally. Our situation, in the world’s eyes, was telling us we were crazy for going through with this adoption. Many times we were discouraged and scared. We lost a referral. Both of our fathers had surgeries. One of our dads endured cancer treatments. We struggled to meet the emotional, physical, and academic needs of our boys. We faced negativity from people in our lives who did not understand our call to adopt again. And, of course, we felt the … Continue reading

Read More »
May 26, 2017

Netflix’s Anne with an E, Reviewed

Anne with an E

While critics are divided over the new “Anne of Green Gables,” one thing is certain– Anne with an E is darker and grittier than previous adaptations of the 1908 novel by Lucy Maud Montgomery. That said, I’m not ready to give up on the series. Here are a few personal observations after watching the first episode. Parental Cautions Good news: The first episode steers clear of vulgar language and sexual content. Watching this episode as a family is no problem from this perspective. Caution: Anne is occasionally haunted by brief-but-instense flashbacks of physical abuse from her previous homes (including a bullying scene with her peers and a scene where her foster dad beats her over a tree stump and then collapses to his death). If you watch this episode with young children or someone who was fostered, orphaned, or adopted, the flashbacks could trigger hard questions or memories. Critics suggest the show is best suited for … Continue reading

Read More »
May 19, 2017

God Works in the Waiting Room | Family Friday

familyfriday1

I love adoption. It’s beautiful … messy … hard. It’s the big stuff — hope, joy, grief, love, sacrifice — wrapped up in one. Adoption makes a world of difference to a child in need. It builds families. It’s an example of God’s handiwork. And being part of anything God does is just, well, awesome. When my husband and I brought two toddlers home from Russia in 2005, I knew I wanted to adopt again. So many children without families. I couldn’t take it. And I love kids, so why not parent one more? My heart ached. “Just one more Lord. Please. I’m willing. I want to go. Please Lord. Send us again. Send us back to Russia. Please say yes.” But, for ten years, God didn’t say yes. He actually said no. Big noes. Like slam the doors shut, and throw away the keys kinds of noes– a job loss … Continue reading

Read More »
Page: 1 2 3 4 ... 43