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June 16, 2017

Adoption and the God Who Moves Mountains | Family Friday

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God taught us through adoption that His heart is for the fatherless; He will move mountains to place the lonely in families. My wife Julie saw Ellis’s picture while I was in Rwanda with Compassion, and she instantly felt like he was our son. She tried to push the feelings away; after all, this boy was already 3 years old and had a special need that would require daily care. Try as she might, she couldn’t get this precious face out of her head. She pictured him with our family everywhere — on walks, at the park, etc. Meanwhile, over in Africa (before Julie told me about Ellis) I was talking to my team about adopting again. But, surely this wasn’t the right time. We had just moved, taken a substantial pay cut, were figuring out some new medical issues with Katee, and I was still learning my new job. Yet, we could not ignore the ways God was revealing His plan for our … Continue reading

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June 14, 2017

My First Father’s Day as a Foster Dad

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I remember the first time I saw my girls. I had butterflies in my stomach. At first it was a picture on my Iphone. Then I remember walking into the agency and I saw them through the window blinds. The youngest had long (and I mean long!) black pigtails and sat next her birth mom quietly. The oldest was energetic and busy. We met our first two foster daughters that day in March 2012. Before we met them, we talked with their birth mother. She was concerned because she knew we didn’t have kids and thought maybe we just wanted to steal hers. She was also concerned we were the sixth home the girls were going to in less than a year. Both April and I made it clear why we were foster parents. We were there to support both her and the children. April graciously let her know that we would probably … Continue reading

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June 9, 2017

When the Surprise Is a Son by Saturday | Family Friday

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While still living in Guatemala as missionaries, we felt a clear call to return to the U.S. to pursue adoption. After arriving home, we began our home study in June of 2015. I remember asking our worker about the timeline. She commented that no later than October, she would have our study completed. I remember thinking, “Wow! As early as October, we need to be ready.” However, with our first adoption taking about 2 years, I didn’t really think anything would happen that quickly. You can imagine my surprise, getting a call from our worker on a Tuesday, just weeks after the home study was done, asking if we would consider an emergency placement of a 3 year old boy, who needed a home by Saturday! We needed to decide if we wanted our profile to be presented to the birth mom THAT night! Then, if she selected us, we … Continue reading

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June 7, 2017

How to Be a Remarkable Father Through Adoption

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My first Father’s Day was a doozie. My wife and I were in the early days of being home with our newly adopted son, and my wife was on full bed rest with 1 week to go before delivering our second son. I was in my final weeks of a rigorous seminary program, and I was balancing all of the above with a full-time job. And yet that first Father’s Day stands out in my mind as one of the best days of my life. Though I was terrified of doing it all wrong, I was thankful to finally be a dad. This Father’s Day will be my 5th, and though I still have plenty to learn about parenting, I’ve gained a few lessons from fellow dads who have also adopted and are ahead of me on the journey. Here are 3– 1. Don’t consider adoption “a mom thing.” Make it your interest, too. When my … Continue reading

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June 2, 2017

The Life We Never Imagined | Family Friday

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With each of our three adoptions, we have come to a deeper understanding of the Father’s sovereignty … and the beautiful joy that comes out of the adoption tragedy. One quote, in particular, kept us going in spite of the storms. “If you want to walk on water, you have to get out of the boat.”  This rang especially true during the adoption of our daughter, Edie from Hungary. We struggled financially, spiritually, and emotionally. Our situation, in the world’s eyes, was telling us we were crazy for going through with this adoption. Many times we were discouraged and scared. We lost a referral. Both of our fathers had surgeries. One of our dads endured cancer treatments. We struggled to meet the emotional, physical, and academic needs of our boys. We faced negativity from people in our lives who did not understand our call to adopt again. And, of course, we felt the … Continue reading

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May 19, 2017

God Works in the Waiting Room | Family Friday

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I love adoption. It’s beautiful … messy … hard. It’s the big stuff — hope, joy, grief, love, sacrifice — wrapped up in one. Adoption makes a world of difference to a child in need. It builds families. It’s an example of God’s handiwork. And being part of anything God does is just, well, awesome. When my husband and I brought two toddlers home from Russia in 2005, I knew I wanted to adopt again. So many children without families. I couldn’t take it. And I love kids, so why not parent one more? My heart ached. “Just one more Lord. Please. I’m willing. I want to go. Please Lord. Send us again. Send us back to Russia. Please say yes.” But, for ten years, God didn’t say yes. He actually said no. Big noes. Like slam the doors shut, and throw away the keys kinds of noes– a job loss … Continue reading

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May 17, 2017

What a Birth Mother Needs You to Know

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I often told my son’s adoptive mother how much I loved her and was thankful she was a part of my life. But, like many things I’ve told her over the years, Kathy would already know. Back in 1985 I chose open adoption for my son. Being a birthmother has changed my life forever, and I know that becoming an adoptive parent changed Kathy’s, too. We’ve traveled the road of adoption together, with respect and honesty. We’ve shared our hopes, our fears, and our dreams for the boy we both love. However, often adoptive parents do not get the chance to build this type of relationship with their child’s birthmother. While most domestic adoptions are open, most children adopted from other countries are not. This disconnect from a child’s beginnings can make it difficult for adoptive parents to provide answers their child will need as they grow and explore the … Continue reading

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