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September 29, 2017

Does God Ever Finally Say “Yes”? | Family Friday

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Six months ago, my phone rang and a voice I’d never heard before announced she was the adoption attorney and she had good news for me. (Don’t forget to read the first part of this story, An Open Letter to Infertility.) I stood up really quickly and kind of choked out the words, “GOOD news?” I needed to hear it again because for three years, every adoption lead and follow-up had been what we’d call NOT good news. And we were tired. Our daughter, almost five and also adopted, was even growing weary in her prayers. “I keep asking God for a baby and maybe He will just say NO.” We struggled to sympathize and also draw her attention to the reality that God’s “no” ought to be dearer to us than our push for “yes.” It was a struggle for us all. So I was in disbelief at the … Continue reading

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September 27, 2017

An Open Letter to Infertility

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Nearly 5 years ago, you were just an idea or a thing that happened to someone else, but not to me. And I would shake my head in sadness for all those women who suffered at your hands. You were a distant enemy, all those years ago. And then you were not so distant. And four lost babies later? I knew who you were. Three agonizingly short pregnancies, one surgery, two natural miscarriages, and more poking and prodding and asking deeply personal questions than I ever thought possible…and I knew you were my greatest foe, standing between me and the thing my heart longed for with a greater ferocity than I could have imagined: to mother. You were my truest enemy, my greatest fear, and a label I brushed away tearfully time and again. But now we are friends, Infertility. I’m not sure that’s anything I ever thought I would say. But I need to be … Continue reading

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November 9, 2016

Redeeming Infertility | National Adoption Month

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The life of a Christian is spent in constant redemption. Just like we redeem a coupon at the grocery store, trading in a tattered little piece of paper we ripped out of a newspaper or magazine for 55¢ off a can of green beans, we trade in worthless, tattered bits of our life for something valuable. That cut-out little piece of paper is worth nothing in our hands–it clutters the bottom of our purse, it gets stuck in a coupon file until it’s too late and out of date–or it may remain unclipped in a stack of papers. I usually stick it with a magnet to the fridge where it mocks me and makes me feel guilty for not being more organized. It often remains there until I can’t handle its scornful face any longer, convince myself it isn’t worth the trouble, and throw it away. I’m just not any … Continue reading

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April 29, 2016

Don’t Waste Your Infertility

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It’s been a few months since we received the hard news that our struggle with infertility would require more treatment before we are able to proceed with trying to get pregnant. Few things feel worse than waking up from surgery and hearing the words, “It was worse than the doctor thought; you will need more treatment.” I went into surgery hopeful and came out feeling like I had been punched in the stomach (physically and emotionally). This is not how we planned. This is hardly what we wanted. And this diagnosis only prolonged, and solidified, that we weren’t just a couple who was having a hard time getting pregnant again. We were infertile, at least for the time being. I wish I could say that my response to this news has always been Christ-like and admirable. It hasn’t. But through this trial, God has taught me some specific things about … Continue reading

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August 21, 2015

It’s About Time! {Family Friday}

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Some girls played house with their dolls, yet I enjoyed playing orphanage when I was a little girl. God placed in my heart a love for the fatherless when I was young. Before Kevin and I were married we both talked about possibly growing our family through adoption. After years of infertility we clearly saw that God was preparing our hearts for adoption. We anticipated the day when we would be called, “mommy” and “daddy.” It was only two months after completing our home study that God filled our arms with our first son, Noah. He brought so much joy and love into our home. We had yet another home study and this time learned to wait for God’s timing. We finally brought home little Nathan (Gift of God) after two years of planning, praying, and waiting. His life is a miracle and we know God chose us for each … Continue reading

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November 21, 2014

When Infertility and Adoption Collide

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Welcome to week three of our celebration of National Adoption Month! We hope you’ve been reading along this month as REAL moms unpack the REAL issues of adoption. (Need to catch up? Read past blog posts>>) Join us this week as guest blogger & adoptive mom, Rebecca Marquart, shares her family’s journey of adoption and infertility… There were so many things my husband and I didn’t know before we decided to grow our family. We didn’t know how incredibly hilarious preschoolers are. We didn’t know that although a child may be potty “trained,” they might choose not to exercise that skill. We didn’t know how innocently a child can love and how quick they are to forgive. We also didn’t know how intensely angry and out-of-control that same child could be! We didn’t know about the Wild Kratts or Angelina Ballerina. We had no idea about car seat laws. We … Continue reading

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