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November 13, 2015

3 Side Effects of Being Adopted: My Story

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As a little girl–two days before Christmas–I received my forever family via adoption. I’ve spent the last 30+ years of my life joking with my parents that I was the best Christmas gift they ever got, though in reality, I consider it entirely the other way around. Let me say this. I know adoption isn’t always a positive experience for children or families. Many adoptees carry heavy burdens of grief and loss for decades after their adoption is final. I have no desire to minimize that reality. For a few years during my adolescence, I experienced some of the anxiety and insecurity associated with adoption. (Though I’m not entirely sure the anxiety and insecurity wasn’t at least in part the result of being an adolescent.) But I have largely escaped the darker side of adoption due to these 3 side effects of my story– 1. I value the fact that I … Continue reading

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November 6, 2015

10 Things Birth Mothers Want Adoptive Parents to Know

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I often told my son’s adoptive mother how much I loved her and was thankful she was a part of my life. But, like many things I’ve told her over the years, Kathy would already know. Back in 1985 I chose open adoption for my son. Being a birthmother has changed my life forever, and I know that becoming an adoptive parent changed Kathy’s, too. We’ve traveled the road of adoption together, with respect and honesty. We’ve shared our hopes, our fears, and our dreams for the boy we both love. However, often adoptive parents do not get the chance to build this type of relationship with their child’s birthmother. While most domestic adoptions are open, most children adopted from other countries are not. This disconnect from a child’s beginnings can make it difficult for adoptive parents to provide answers their child will need as they grow and explore the … Continue reading

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November 5, 2015

Welcome to National Adoption Month!

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Here at Lifesong we believe every month is the right time to spread awareness for adoption, foster care, and orphan care, but it’s nice to see that our nation recognizes November as National Adoption Month! So we want to honor this event by highlighting unscripted voices from those in the trenches. Each Friday this month, we will publish a blog post written by someone uniquely involved in adoption. We’ll hear from a birth mother, an adoptee, and an adoptive parent, as well as learn practical strategies the church can employ to encourage those involved in adoption. Do you have something to say? We’d love to hear you weigh in on the conversation. Feel free to comment here on the blog or find us on Facebook or Twitter. Also, please consider contributing to our matching grants for adoptive families, helping give a child the life-changing gift of forever family. National Adoption Month is … Continue reading

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November 21, 2014

When Infertility and Adoption Collide

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Welcome to week three of our celebration of National Adoption Month! We hope you’ve been reading along this month as REAL moms unpack the REAL issues of adoption. (Need to catch up? Read past blog posts>>) Join us this week as guest blogger & adoptive mom, Rebecca Marquart, shares her family’s journey of adoption and infertility… There were so many things my husband and I didn’t know before we decided to grow our family. We didn’t know how incredibly hilarious preschoolers are. We didn’t know that although a child may be potty “trained,” they might choose not to exercise that skill. We didn’t know how innocently a child can love and how quick they are to forgive. We also didn’t know how intensely angry and out-of-control that same child could be! We didn’t know about the Wild Kratts or Angelina Ballerina. We had no idea about car seat laws. We … Continue reading

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November 14, 2014

Lessons God Taught Me On The Bathroom Floor

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Welcome to week two of our celebration of National Adoption Month. I hope you read along last week as we heard about the reality of post-adoption depression. This week, we are honored to have guest blogger & Lifesong Adoptive mom, Nicole Schmidt, talk about the struggles they faced after bringing older children into their home and the lessons God taught her… Our entire adoption process, we held the verse in Ephesians close to our hearts.  In LOVE, He predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of HIS glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the beloved. After about a year and half long process and we boarded a plane to go pick up our boys in Ethiopia. We were ecstatic! Our entire process we had prayed this simple prayer. God, show us your radical love—help us … Continue reading

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November 7, 2014

Getting Real About Post-Adoption Depression {Part 2}

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This is the follow-up from yesterday’s post “Getting Real About Post-Adoption Depression {Part 1}”. Thanks for coming back to hear the rest of Jenni’s story. She shared with us yesterday about the emotions she felt after the adoption of her daughter and the change and transition that left her feeling like she was drowning. Listen in today as she shares the HEALING God has been bringing to her heart… “I joined a support group for women experiencing grief, which helped to revive my spirit, and also joined my church moms group, which reminded me that mothers of preschoolers desperately need one another.   And let me be honest here.  Parenting a toddler in my 40’s has been much harder than parenting toddlers in my 30’s.   These groups made me feel like I could breathe again.   The sense of drowning began to subside.  A close friend offered to watch our kids twice a month … Continue reading

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November 6, 2014

Getting Real About Post-Adoption Depression {Part 1}

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Welcome to our first post in a month-long series in honor of National Adoption Month. Each week, you will hear from an adoptive mom, writing on REAL adoption issues from their personal stories. I hope you’ll follow along and listen to the deep places of their hearts they are so willing to share! To start us off, Jenni Ramsey, Lifesong Adoptive mom and active orphan advocate, gets real about post-adoption depression: “I’ll never forget the phone call.   Our family had just traveled out of state for my mother-in-law’s memorial.   The trip allowed us some extended time with my sister-in-law and her family, who adopted their daughter in China five years before our adoption was finalized in South Korea.   During our trip my sister-in-law saw the signs.  She recognized the symptoms as she spent time with me.  I was suffering from post-adoption depression syndrome (PADS) and she was deeply concerned.  I … Continue reading

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