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May 19, 2017

God Works in the Waiting Room | Family Friday

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I love adoption. It’s beautiful … messy … hard. It’s the big stuff — hope, joy, grief, love, sacrifice — wrapped up in one. Adoption makes a world of difference to a child in need. It builds families. It’s an example of God’s handiwork. And being part of anything God does is just, well, awesome. When my husband and I brought two toddlers home from Russia in 2005, I knew I wanted to adopt again. So many children without families. I couldn’t take it. And I love kids, so why not parent one more? My heart ached. “Just one more Lord. Please. I’m willing. I want to go. Please Lord. Send us again. Send us back to Russia. Please say yes.” But, for ten years, God didn’t say yes. He actually said no. Big noes. Like slam the doors shut, and throw away the keys kinds of noes– a job loss … Continue reading

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May 17, 2017

What a Birth Mother Needs You to Know

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I often told my son’s adoptive mother how much I loved her and was thankful she was a part of my life. But, like many things I’ve told her over the years, Kathy would already know. Back in 1985 I chose open adoption for my son. Being a birthmother has changed my life forever, and I know that becoming an adoptive parent changed Kathy’s, too. We’ve traveled the road of adoption together, with respect and honesty. We’ve shared our hopes, our fears, and our dreams for the boy we both love. However, often adoptive parents do not get the chance to build this type of relationship with their child’s birthmother. While most domestic adoptions are open, most children adopted from other countries are not. This disconnect from a child’s beginnings can make it difficult for adoptive parents to provide answers their child will need as they grow and explore the … Continue reading

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May 12, 2017

What Every (Adoptive) Mom Wants to Hear This Mother’s Day

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Let’s be honest. Motherhood is a tough job … harder than anyone ever warned us it would be. Ever notice how your fellow mom friends strategically failed to communicate the realities of sleepless nights, potty training, or mom brain? And let’s not even start with mom guilt. It’s motherhood’s best-kept secret. As an adoptive mom, I’ll just say it: From the moment you sign the dotted line on those adoption papers, your life changed. But 5 years out, I also have good news: It’s worth it. 3 thoughts to consider this Mother’s Day (courtesy of my mom friends who finally started talking)– 1. Motherhood is forever, but the seasons are temporary. Ecclesiastes 3 begins with the words, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” So, too, there are seasons of motherhood, and specifically seasons for the mom who adopted. You may wrestle with a season of guilt over raising … Continue reading

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May 10, 2017

5 Quick Thoughts for the Weary

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In the midst of another long week? Here are 5 quick thoughts to consider when you are weary– 1. God delights to use dust. “God loves to take the dust of our shattered places and do something miraculous with it.” –Lysa TerKeurst, Proverbs 31 Ministries 2. God desires to draw you close. “Stay close to the heart of the Father; that is what the world needs most from you.” –Jedd Medefind, author and president of Christian Alliance for Orphans 3. God loves you perfectly. “Christ’s love compels us. It is inexhaustible.” –Steven Curtis Chapman, singer, song writer, and founder of Show Hope 4. God is enough.  “Do not make yourself the center of your story. Let others see Jesus at the center.” — Peter Greer, president and CEO of HOPE International 5. God gives grace. “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will … Continue reading

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May 5, 2017

Why Adoption is Supposed to be Hard

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My wife and I have been home from China with Jeremiah for 6 weeks, and when people ask me how we’re all doing I usually say … “We’re alive, and that’s our only goal right now, so good I think.” We could safely say that this has been the most stretching and overwhelming two months of our lives, and tears have been plentiful in the Clements household. Kristi and I have always been staggered by how clearly adoption is a picture of the gospel. It’s no accident that Paul uses the imagery of adoption multiple times to describe what God did for us–that we were spiritual orphans, completely hopeless and as good as dead–and God adopted us into His family through the costly blood of His Son. He chose to take on immense suffering on our behalf, so that we could be reconciled to Him. So when we were dating, engaged and first married, … Continue reading

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April 12, 2017

Hope on the Horizon: Remembering Dr. Karyn Purvis

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1 year ago today, Dr. Karyn Purvis–internationally renowned child development expert, popular speaker, author, and passionate advocate for vulnerable children–went to be with the Lord. On August 20, 2014, several of foster care’s leading thinkers met in Oklahoma City to share ideas that are making a difference. Dr. Karyn Purvis–with her trademark compassion and her hair cut short from the effects of cancer–shared many thoughts with the group. Here are a few highlights– God has a plan. We serve a God of extravagant love. It’s the God of extravagant love that we see in the Gospels when parents bring their children to Jesus. He scoops them up in His arms and He holds them and He blesses them. And He gives them all that He is. That’s extravagant love. This God that we serve also has an extravagant plan. And even when we don’t think the plan worked, there’s still a plan. This is the God … Continue reading

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April 5, 2017

How to Breathe Life into Your Church Adoption Culture

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Adoptive families crave authentic, supportive community, and there should be no better place to find it than in the local church. Plain and simply, when families step into foster care and adoption, they enter the pain and suffering of another human being. In doing so, they often become the brokenhearted. In taking on the burdens once belonging solely to the child in their care, parents become the weary, discouraged, and overwhelmed in need of a timely word or helping hand. The church, by its very definition, exists for hurting people and should be the safest place for families to find the hope that exists in Christ. Here are 3 ways to breathe life into your church’s adoption culture– 1. Encourage truth. The “How are you? —Fine” scenario is cliche in our culture, but it shouldn’t be the pattern in our church family. As foster/adoptive parents bring wounded children into the church assembly–some of whom … Continue reading

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