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July 21, 2017

Here’s the Best Thing about Foster Care | Family Friday

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Adoption Day was such a milestone for our family. What people may not realize is that as foster families and for us in particular, we had been her foster family for 819 days. That is 819 days of court visits, social worker calls, impromptu social worker visits, daily logs to fill out, endless amounts of paper work, and the list goes on and on. So for us, adoption day meant the culmination of so many things–it wasn’t just us adopting our daughter, but it also meant we could finally take a breath. We became foster parents because God prompted us through a sermon series at our church called “Outlive Your Life.” We became licensed and got our first placement, a 12-year-old boy in 2013. He was reunified and we then said “yes” to other placements. Eventually, we said yes to a 5-month-old girl in the early part of 2014. Her adoption … Continue reading

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June 23, 2017

When Staying Alive Depends on Being Adopted | Family Friday

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We adopted Philip and Arthur from China nearly one year ago. Both of our sons have cerebral palsy. Philip, 4 yrs., was unable to self-feed, walk, or speak when we brought him home. He is now doing all three! Only God. Arthur was in serious condition, although we didn’t realize the extent until after many appointments and testing. On gotcha day he could not even hold his head up. He needed to be held and cradled like a newborn even though he was almost 3. The muscle tightness described in his medical file turned out to be spastic quadriplegia cerebral palsy. He was also silently aspiring everything we fed him. Surgery was done to insert a feeding tube and slowly he is growing stronger. Arthur is now able to stand with support and attempting a few steps. Many doctors have said that because of the shape he was in he … Continue reading

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June 7, 2017

How to Be a Remarkable Father Through Adoption

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My first Father’s Day was a doozie. My wife and I were in the early days of being home with our newly adopted son, and my wife was on full bed rest with 1 week to go before delivering our second son. I was in my final weeks of a rigorous seminary program, and I was balancing all of the above with a full-time job. And yet that first Father’s Day stands out in my mind as one of the best days of my life. Though I was terrified of doing it all wrong, I was thankful to finally be a dad. This Father’s Day will be my 5th, and though I still have plenty to learn about parenting, I’ve gained a few lessons from fellow dads who have also adopted and are ahead of me on the journey. Here are 3– 1. Don’t consider adoption “a mom thing.” Make it your interest, too. When my … Continue reading

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May 19, 2017

God Works in the Waiting Room | Family Friday

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I love adoption. It’s beautiful … messy … hard. It’s the big stuff — hope, joy, grief, love, sacrifice — wrapped up in one. Adoption makes a world of difference to a child in need. It builds families. It’s an example of God’s handiwork. And being part of anything God does is just, well, awesome. When my husband and I brought two toddlers home from Russia in 2005, I knew I wanted to adopt again. So many children without families. I couldn’t take it. And I love kids, so why not parent one more? My heart ached. “Just one more Lord. Please. I’m willing. I want to go. Please Lord. Send us again. Send us back to Russia. Please say yes.” But, for ten years, God didn’t say yes. He actually said no. Big noes. Like slam the doors shut, and throw away the keys kinds of noes– a job loss … Continue reading

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May 17, 2017

What a Birth Mother Needs You to Know

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I often told my son’s adoptive mother how much I loved her and was thankful she was a part of my life. But, like many things I’ve told her over the years, Kathy would already know. Back in 1985 I chose open adoption for my son. Being a birthmother has changed my life forever, and I know that becoming an adoptive parent changed Kathy’s, too. We’ve traveled the road of adoption together, with respect and honesty. We’ve shared our hopes, our fears, and our dreams for the boy we both love. However, often adoptive parents do not get the chance to build this type of relationship with their child’s birthmother. While most domestic adoptions are open, most children adopted from other countries are not. This disconnect from a child’s beginnings can make it difficult for adoptive parents to provide answers their child will need as they grow and explore the … Continue reading

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May 12, 2017

What Every (Adoptive) Mom Wants to Hear This Mother’s Day

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Let’s be honest. Motherhood is a tough job … harder than anyone ever warned us it would be. Ever notice how your fellow mom friends strategically failed to communicate the realities of sleepless nights, potty training, or mom brain? And let’s not even start with mom guilt. It’s motherhood’s best-kept secret. As an adoptive mom, I’ll just say it: From the moment you sign the dotted line on those adoption papers, your life changed. But 5 years out, I also have good news: It’s worth it. 3 thoughts to consider this Mother’s Day (courtesy of my mom friends who finally started talking)– 1. Motherhood is forever, but the seasons are temporary. Ecclesiastes 3 begins with the words, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” So, too, there are seasons of motherhood, and specifically seasons for the mom who adopted. You may wrestle with a season of guilt over raising … Continue reading

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May 10, 2017

5 Quick Thoughts for the Weary

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In the midst of another long week? Here are 5 quick thoughts to consider when you are weary– 1. God delights to use dust. “God loves to take the dust of our shattered places and do something miraculous with it.” –Lysa TerKeurst, Proverbs 31 Ministries 2. God desires to draw you close. “Stay close to the heart of the Father; that is what the world needs most from you.” –Jedd Medefind, author and president of Christian Alliance for Orphans 3. God loves you perfectly. “Christ’s love compels us. It is inexhaustible.” –Steven Curtis Chapman, singer, song writer, and founder of Show Hope 4. God is enough.  “Do not make yourself the center of your story. Let others see Jesus at the center.” — Peter Greer, president and CEO of HOPE International 5. God gives grace. “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will … Continue reading

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