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August 24, 2016

How to Handle the Grief You Feel for Your Child

You’ve probably been down this road before: Your child suffers from extreme depression, hurts others, or makes decisions that are against everything your family holds true. It causes unimaginable grief. How do you handle the extreme emotions you feel, while making sure your children are taken care of? I stand in my kitchen, early on a Monday morning, coffee in hand, feeling sad. It’s been a tough 8 months. We thought bringing our son home from residential treatment would be a good thing. It’s been an uphill climb ever since. But not just between us and him. Our other children have gone through secondary trauma. Our younger children are on edge all the time, and another child deals with major depression. So I stand in my kitchen, as morning dawns, and grieve. I grieve my son’s behavior. I grieve his birth mother’s choice to use drugs and drink throughout her pregnancy … Continue reading

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August 17, 2016

3 Things to Consider: Answering Questions about Our Kids

Insensitive comments from people who are unfamiliar with children from hard places are nothing new in the adoption community. Following up on last week’s gentle plea for tact, here are 3 things to consider when talking about the children in our care: Whether or not we are speaking to our children, we are speaking to our children. Our kids hear what we say to other people about them, and our answers often have a greater capacity for harm or good than the questions posed by strangers. When the tactless shopper in the grocery store asks about the way our child walks or talks, answer the stranger believing the child is listening and understanding every word. Specifically, questions that begin with, “What is wrong with …” can easily be answered with “Nothing. (S)he is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).” Just because the personal question is asked doesn’t mean we need to respond with personal information. When someone inquires about … Continue reading

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August 10, 2016

What We Call Our Kids: A Gentle Plea for Tact

5 years ago today, my husband and I met our son for the first time. He was wearing a girl’s shirt and receiving a breathing treatment when I first laid eyes on him. Truthfully, I needed the oxygen in that moment. He took my breath away and has continued to do so with every milestone reached and every goal achieved. The list of what he has overcome in his 9 years of life is astronomical, and I suspect he is just getting started. So the first time I heard someone here in the U.S. refer to him as “a special needs,” I was taken aback. A special needs what? He’s not a category–he’s my boy. I called my mom (because even in my 30s, I need her to talk straight with me), and as soon as she picked up the phone I blurted, “Is Andrew a special needs?” Only when she answered, “He’s Andrew,” did I allow myself … Continue reading

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June 10, 2016

How to Raise $11,000 | Family Friday

Finances and paperwork are two of the greatest hurdles for adopting families. Brian and Rebecca found this to be true. In their words … We were towards the end of our adoption journey when a friend, who was also a pastor of a church, told us about their Lifesong matching grant money. At the time, we were overwhelmed at the thought of having to fill out more paperwork, but at our friend’s insistence, we went ahead and did it. We were able to get processed quickly, which was a huge blessing! Over all, we raised $11,000 through the Lifesong mySTORY Crowdfunding website, including the matching grant money we received. It got us to exactly what we needed to finish our Chinese adoption. What a blessing! Lifesong was the conduit for being able to raise the rest of what we needed for our adoption. We had a place people could go and directly give knowing … Continue reading

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May 18, 2015

One Child’s Extraordinary Return {Zambia Update}

 Please enjoy this update from Mitzi McBride from Lifesong Zambia… Our growth and improvement as a program is all about the lives of children, and what we are trying to accomplish in those lives.  Today, I had a great picture of our vision…”Bringing Joy and Purpose” to life. Paul is a little boy who is living with a sickness since birth. He has been faithfully on medications for his lifetime. Unfortunately, due to some of the side effects of the medications, he suffered a stroke, experienced extreme dehydration, and refused to eat. It was as if his desire for life had left him. Things started turning around when a medical mission team came and started administering IV fluids at home for a few days. It was as if Paul just needed to see someone cared about him and wanted him in this world.  After that, his stroke symptoms worsened and … Continue reading

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April 27, 2015

Lizzy: Fearfully & Wonderfully Made

Enjoy this update from Village of Hope missionary, Amy Block: “She was abandoned at 10 days old in a cold, stark hospital room. The social worker called around for hours looking for a children’s home who would take her in. Children with a diagnosis such as hers are hard to place. The responsibilities are huge, the cost is high. But we know a Savior who already covered the cost. Three days later, Lizzy had a shunt put into her head to alleviate the pressure.  “I will not leave you as orphans:  I will come to you.” John 14:18 Lizzy was diagnosed with Hydranencephaly. Hydranencephaly is a rare neurological condition in which most of the cerebral hemispheres are absent and replaced with fluid. The MRI showed she only had 10% of her brain. The doctors looked at us with no hope in their eyes, saying she would have no quality of … Continue reading

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December 12, 2014

The Puzzle Piece We Didn’t Know Was Missing {Family Friday}

In May of 2013 my husband and I received a phone call from a friend asking if we would be interested in pursuing a private adoption with a couple who was pregnant with a baby girl due in November 2013. We were elated and blown away that God was opening the doors for us to adopt again and provide a sibling for our (then) 3 year old son, Gavin. We made preparations, shared our news with family and friends and began excitedly purchasing baby girl items. But a few weeks before the birth mom’s due date, she abruptly stopped communicating with us and we never heard from her again. We could only assume she chose to parent, yet we were heartbroken. I spent many nights that early winter crying out to God and asking Him where He was in this. Why would He have set my heart upon a little … Continue reading

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